Is Your Mirror Cracked?

Broken Reflection

Broken Reflection

My truth is not your truth! And truth is fluid – what I believed five minutes ago can change in a blink of an eye! There are very few Universal Laws, and I’m reminded of this law of truth in judgement on a weekly – perhaps daily – basis in the work with my clients. We are able to see the personalities and emotions of those around us, and we think we know a lot about ourselves, but it’s rather like playing the game of relationships with mirrors. I can only know who you are through my mirror of my experiences, my wisdom, my strengths and weaknesses, my likes or dislikes… And you can only know who I am through your mirror of your own life journey.

For us to try to bypass our own mirrors to judge those around us is to render distorted opinions and faulty judgement. Jack Nicholson’s line from An Officer and a Gentleman – “You can’t handle the truth” – comes to mind regarding our ability to recognize ourselves in a crystal-clear mirror. Don’t get too close, don’t look too long…the image continues to change, so don’t get too attached! Should we care so much what opinion another person has of us?

  • Is it really our business what is in their mirror?
  • Which side of the courtroom do you most often support in your own life – the prosecution or the defense?
  • Doesn’t this release a lot of need for judgement?

Two Wolves

Dark&Light WolvesAn old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One is Evil – filled with anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
“The other is Good – filled with joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked, ” Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.”

— Cherokee Legend

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Tweaking the Days of the Weak

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If Sun-days are for Reflection,

What is the nature of the other days?

Introspection, Rejection, Dejection,

Interjection, Projection,

And finally Perfection!

To Go or Not to Go


As I was growing up, the oldest child in a large family, I mentioned going to college a couple of times, and my parents would say, “That would be nice…” I knew that every dollar was accounted for (and some of them already spent) before “our check” came on Thursdays, so a discussion about my parents helping with my dream never took place. After I had all of my plans made and nailed down, and with a few weeks till departure, I stood before my folks and revealed. Raised brows and stammering from them…

Shortly after, I stood with my bags beside me and determination in my pocket, and they were still in disbelief. They were fast learners though — when I ended my first semester of teaching, they believed me and accepted that I was going to college.

My mom accepted that I was going to retire much more easily!

Change Happens — Judgement is Optional


Enlightenment is evolutionary, and my awareness is that we have to experience or dabble in many philosophies to ascend. So we’re all where we need to be – maybe there’s no urgency to push others to the consciousness level where we are. The element that is very difficult to shift out of is judgement (which is really only perception) that makes us so passionate to keep others that we love in our space.

What if? … you choose new freedom ‘out of the box’ as a gift to give  yourself, but it doesn’t fit those you love so much – at this time?

What if? …  others you love are still in chrysalis stage and you have discovered and are trying out your wings? That doesn’t diminish the truth that all are part of the butterfly clan, does it? 

So, be a bit gentler on yourself – and them —  Change happens in perfect timing!

Consider the Journey

Einstein quote                     

                    Consider the Journey

    Ancient One:   The Journey is very important!

    Child:                As important as the Destination?

    Ancient One:   Oh I tell you from wisdom – far more.

                               On the Journey,  you create who you are.

   Child:                 But I know who I am!    

  Ancient One:     We can change our minds about where we’re going,               

                               But we can’t un-know what we know.

                                                                                  — Phyllis Barrington


Death Times Two

People who have not done The Journey of death of a child think that time heals and the survivors move on after the raw pain clears (a few weeks or a few months). So often there is a discomfort which causes some friends to withdraw, making the loss even harder. We need our friends, and normalcy, and to talk about our children! Loss is not contagious, and those in loss certainly do not want others to feel guilty. It isn’t time that heals (that’s just a marker), but it’s allowing ourselves to find ‘The Gifts in the Ashes’ — and we need connection.

Life – Using Words to Start Over

For only the last ten years or so have I written —  

before that, I felt that my words and phrases were captured behind an impenetrable curtain. I always knew that there was a lifetime as a writer, but that ability was trapped and I would just ramble flowery and forced phrases in school. That block was strengthened in my years growing up by parents who met a mouthy comment with a stern,  “Don’t dispute my word!” It became fruitless to have an opinion in that framework. Then with my husband, communication was a very sticky issue as he never wanted to deal with emotions or philosophy (the weather was a safe topic).

When my world suddenly fell apart, and my life and my self were gone, I took a ‘why-not-I-don’t-know-what-else-to-do’ Australian pilgrimage in 2003. As I walked with Aboriginal guides through the rainforest and swam in the Great Barrier Reef, then new thoughts (ME thoughts) … began to flow. I did lots of listening and suspended judgement of what came.  I was really amazed when I first began to listen and interpret that silence into poetic form as a tool for understanding myself and life.  As I felt the feelings and chased them around in my head, then nailed them down, the new word-thoughts became elixir for my confusion. 

I always get more vision for and about myself and my journey now when I dive into the quiet place between my thoughts and awareness to write. What was survival became my healing, and ultimately my passion — thanks words!

Ode to Chemtrails

Ode to Chemtrails —

As earthlings, we are on this planet to experiment- so we do have unlimited choice. Along with choice our bodytravel bag contains several levels of consciousness to help us with our choices. We can use that to expand, or limit, or balance our choices or to re-connect with Home. The spark for trying out ideas (or not) is fueled by those touchy-feely emotions, and we have lots of creativity sprinkled in.

Am I ever getting to the point of the chemtrails? You bet!  There is so much controversy and concern about the source and the effects related. By setting intentions for Higher Vibrational outcomes for the planet with Group Consciousness,  balance returns to Universal Life Force energy. If and when we stop thinking and feeling that we are victims, then we have power for change. Then the chemtrails – and political, economic, social, and religious issues – lose their power to  zap our energy or drive us to madness…hmmm that introduces another topic — drugs and alcohol. Oh, wrong forum!


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